Compliments??..... Never Reject Always Accept

By Winning 11 - August 26, 2019

Hello Lovelies, How have you been? it's been a while, I apologize and admit I miss you guys. Did y'all miss me?

Today we will be learning a very common issue/error I have noticed, I admit I was a victim (sometimes still) of this wrong defect in attitude it is.... tada! accepting or rejecting compliments. Lets's get right into it.

A random convo:

Me: "Your dress is very nice"

Her: " This dress is like so old, I bought it in Yaba, bendown select that year, it is not very expensive jare"

Me in my mind: 😔, just say thank you and keep it moving.

Familiar?...

Most people give compliments because they want you to feel good. But, if you're like most people, those well-meaning kind words may be hard to hear sometimes. When you receive a compliment from someone you admire, your first reaction may be to deflect the attention. For example, when a friend expresses their gratitude for your help, you may be prone to redirect the compliment and respond with something like, "Oh, I wasn't that helpful. Anyone could have done it."

Here are four reasons why it can be hard to accept a compliment:

1. You Have Low Self-Esteem

2. Your Self-Image Doesn't Line Up

3. You're Uncomfortable with Big Expectations
4. You Want to be Humble

A new research study published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, found that people with low self-esteem have the most difficulty accepting compliments. If you think you're somehow flawed, or you believe that you aren't good enough, you might have trouble understanding how others can say such kind things about you.

Quite often, this is why people respond to compliments with a justification. Saying something like, "Well I just got lucky this time," might help relieve a little bit of the anxiety that gets stirred up when someone's description of you seems doesn't match the way you describe yourself.

But then how do I receive compliments? what do I say when someone compliments me. First of all, I think if you have identified the root as listed above, please deal with it especially if it id deep rooted in self esteem issues. However, Whenever you receive a compliment or accolade, but don't know what to say, use these tips to accept compliments with grace.

Humbly say, "Thank you." It is the simplest phrase you can say, but it sends a powerful message. It is unassuming, humble and shows your gratitude. When you receive a compliment, say something like, "Thank you, I appreciate your kind words."

Don't try to one-up a compliment. Avoid the temptation to "out-compliment" someone. You may feel inclined to say, "Thank you, but everyone knows your contributions were much more valuable than mine." Simply embrace the moment and show your gratitude.

Mind your nonverbal cues. Body language is a powerful communication tool. If your body language doesn't match your words, you may send the wrong message. Crossed arms or casual posture may be misinterpreted as disinterest. Use direct eye contact to engage the person with whom you're speaking. Lean slightly forward and smile when you receive someone's praise.

Acknowledge your team's effort. When you receive recognition for something you did with others, acknowledge their work. For example, if you co-host a bridal shower with a friend, publicly recognize her effort. As people leave the event, say something like, "I'm so glad you enjoyed the party. I'll pass your kind words along to Sarah, who helped plan the event."

I am sure you have learnt as well as I did, do you have other way to stop compliments deflation? Kindly share in the comment section to help other readers.

See Ya later Lovelies!